Sunday, 11 September 2016

MOMENTARY


Hey guys!

I've wanted to write something about this subject for a while, but I never quite knew how, or what to say, or how to make it relatable/understandable. 

My mother is an incredible human, a wonderful, loving, caring, understanding, creative, inspiring, beautiful human. My whole life she has been there, she's helped me through everything. 

She's been through so much herself, yet still is able to be peaceful, and giving, and loving, and understanding. So incredibly understanding! 

I remember phone conversations where I would be yelling down the phone with anger and frustration of my situations, venting my fury to her, and she would be calm and understanding, she would always tell me, this is momentary, everything in life is momentary, nothing is forever, you will get through this. 

It has taken me a long time to truly understand this, I used to hate/fight certain situations I would find myself in, never accepting anything, never taking any blame, holding onto past feelings, words, anything that would allow me to be the victim, anything that would make it okay for me to wait until someone else fixed my issues or my problems.

If you can learn this peacefulness, this ease of life, this acceptance, then you will live an incredibly fulfilled and peaceful life.

Momentary, the name of this post, is something I repeate to myself everyday, everything is momentary, everything bad will pass, just like everything that is good will also pass, it is up to us to chose what we hold onto and what we let go of, if you hold onto a sadness you will stay sad, if you can learn to accept it and let it go you are leaving room for happiness to come in. If you hold onto happiness for too long it can sometimes turn into sadness, therefor you must live every moment in the moment, without concern for the past, or worry for the future. You also have to remind yourself that when you're holding onto a feeling weather it be happy or sad, that you are making a conscious choice to allow yourself to feel a certain way, we actually have the power to feel happy or sad. 

I think this generation is especially attracted to the 'playing the victim' card, the 'woe is me' card, and the removal of all responsibility. 

Everything we do, everything we feel, everything we allow to affect us is by our own choice, we can choose.

You can choose. 
Hold on, or let go. 
Life is much lighter when you let go.

Wednesday, 20 April 2016

I IS FOR ISOLATION



I've been thinking a lot recently about feeling alone, and 'isolated'. 

My question about this feeling is... How does it happen? How is it that we can feel so incredibly lonely, and shut off from the world, especially when we are mostly surrounded by life.

Is it because we have forgotten how to communicate/connect with each other? 
Is it because we are too consumed in ourselves/what we are doing?
 Or
Is it because we isolate ourselves due to our different lifestyles/insecurities?

Most definitely it comes from our insecurities, we are insecure about something and so the easiest way to deal, is to place the blame of that insecurity on someone else, instead of trying to accept or change that feeling within us.

I think that it also comes down to us being so consumed in our own lives, we are almost living inside our minds 24/7, no breaks from our thoughts, from our self inflicted pressure, our want to be the best, and our need to feel fulfilled. 

This all sounds very me, me, me, and I, I, I, that's because it is.. Isolation comes from within us.. I think that we isolate ourselves a lot of the time. 

We are too focused on ourselves, in a negative way, I'm not saying it's bad to be focused on yourself, I'm say it's not healthy to focus on ourselves in negative ways i.e.: why didn't I get invited?, why did this happen to me?, why don't people appreciate me?, why didn't he/she ask me out?.

Selfish thoughts will isolate you.

If you want to go to that party, ask. 
If you don't want something to happen, don't let it.
If you want to feel appreciated, make people appreciate you.
(if they don't, walk away.)
You don't need him/her to ask you out, you can ask them out.

All of this is slightly rich coming from me, but I am writing this to acknowledge that it's a behaviour of mine, that needs to stop.

We need to be less selfish and more selfless.
When you're selfless you won't feel isolated, because your thoughts won't be of you, they will be of the people surrounding you.

Do you ever feel isolated? Can you break down why it is you feel that way?

I think if you can, then you'll realise that mostly it comes from a negative place of selfishness, ego, and insecurity.

Let all of that go.
Just be. 






Sunday, 28 February 2016

DRIVING IN CARS WITH GIRLS


Hey guys!

So you're probably thinking what has this post got to do with 'driving in cars with girls'? Well in all honesty the only reason why I named this post that is because of the traffic my friend and I experienced during this day.. It was bad.. We love Melbourne!


The night before I received a notification on my phone, my friend had tagged me in a post from the SOS Cafe's Instagram page. Quickly followed by a text seeing if I'd like to join her in a brunch date.

Obviously I said yes. My two favourite things, food&friends!


The verdict.

Service: Great! Friendly staff and minimal waiting time.
Food: Delicious. 
Coffee: Smooth, rich, and perfectly tamped.
Atmosphere/Vibe: Aesthetically pleasing, relaxed yet sophisticated vibes.

Overall A+ 
Well done SOS Cafe!

Highly recommend giving them a visit if you're ever in the South Yarra side of town!


© JAMIESON WILLIAM SANGSTER /
Maira Gall